How I grew from an inquisitive kid into a life coach
I’ve been developing my skills as a life coach since I was a teenager. Back then, I was an inquisitive, pudgy, little 13 year old with lots of questions about life.
- Why are there so many unhappy people in the world?
- How do I find happiness?
- What’s the deal with God/religion?
- Why don’t I believe what my grandparents believe?
- What’s spirituality?
- How does the universe work?
One of my most influential early teachers was my father. He’s an engineer, and back then, he would talk to me about metaphysics, saying things like:
“Life is more illusion than reality. You become what you think, and what you think becomes your reality. Our outer experience is a reflection of our inner world. Life is like a big holographic mirror. To change your life, don’t look to change things on the outside, look to change them on the inside.”
This kind of stuff really resonated with me. I was excited to learn more about our reality, energy, the universe we live in, and what was possible to create.
By my late teens, I had a lot more questions:
- How do I choose a career?
- When is it okay to do things just for myself, and not my family?
- How do I avoid taking on other people’s energy?
- How do I take on responsibility, but still feel free?
- What keeps me from pursuing the things I want to do?
- How do I find my ‘soul mate’?
- Am I meant to have kids?
- How am I ‘getting in my own way’?
- How can I develop my intuition?
- Why do certain patterns in my life keep repeating themselves?
- Life seems so hard at times; is there a way to make it easier?
I wanted to talk to someone who wouldn’t be biased like my friends or family. Someone who had a broader perspective about life and the human condition, who could offer me tools and suggestions for moving through life’s challenges. I wanted someone who could see me objectively and truthfully – to help me see the ‘real’ me and the ‘bigger picture’.
I needed a life coach.
The title wasn’t around back then, but there were people playing the role. The experience of speaking with these people was so helpful and enjoyable that I continued to work with different coaches all through my 20’s and 30’s (and I’m still going!). Truthfully, I can’t imagine my life without a coach. I’m always evolving, and with every expansion comes more questions.
I’ve combined these experiences, and with my love for serving others, and found my perfect outlet: Life Coaching.
Now, before I had my own private practice, I got a degree in Human Resources Management and worked in the corporate world. I worked for boutique companies as small as seven people and corporations as large as 6000. I trained, consulted and coached employees from entry level up to all levels of senior executives. I taught sales, customer service and countless leadership programs.
At the end of the day, what I was doing was essentially helping people. No matter what the company, it’s size, or profitability: where there are people, there are issues and opportunities. There are always people who feel stressed, unhappy, confused, dissatisfied, insecure, powerless, etc.; or people who are poor communicators, or who lack self-awareness, or people who just want more joy, growth or satisfaction. As a result, I ended up doing a lot of one-on-one personal coaching. That’s when I decided it was time to start my own practice. I’ve never looked back.
We all recognize the need for coaches in sports – the skater who gets a pep talk just before their medal routine; or the golfer who chokes, only to make the comeback shot and win the cup. Why not have a coach for every other part of our lives? Why not allow yourself some help?
about jeff white
Jeff White, is my glorious partner in life and in business too!
In addition to being a classically trained actor, Jeff has a decade of experience in corporate coaching. He has coached staff from front-line employees to district and Senior VPʼs for many companies throughout Canada and the U.S.
Jeff and I frequently work together to conduct seminars and keynotes. Currently we are developing our own life coaching show for television.